I have been talking to my ex all summer long, because when I ended it, we agreed to stay friends and continue to talk. Well our ;talking; involves such things as him saying he will always love me, and he would drop any girl for me. I did not really miss him at first, because when he said these things, it reassured me that he will always be there for me incase I realized I need him back. Well, he just recently got a new girlfriend and it hurts me to hear him talk about her. I see how happy he is with her and how happy she is, and I just think ;that could be me;. IAnd now when he talks to me, he says things like, ;I really care about her and she could be the one for me instead of you;, and ;I dont think I would leave her even if you wanted me back because I care alot about her.; When he says these things I cry, and I regret breaking up with him. I have contemplated getting back together, but I know that I mustve ended it for a good reason in the beginning. Plus I like the guy Im with right now A LOT! But the thing is, I love my ex.. I cant seem to get over him. I know I told him I want to date around and him to move on, but now that he has I am extremely depressed. Im worried that I will realize later on down the road that he was the one for me and I need him, but by the time I do he will be long gone and I will have lost all chances with him. I dont know if Im feeling jealousy and I just feel this way because he was my first love and I will eventually get over it. Or if I feel this way because I really do NEED him. Please help! I dont know what to do! =(Do I really need my ex back or are my first love feelings confusing me?
Dont let him say things like that to you. Hes manipulating you and messing with your head. He might not realize hes doing it, but its making you feel jealous and insecure. I think you need to keep dating around until you find someone that loves you that wont manipulate you like that.Do I really need my ex back or are my first love feelings confusing me?
Yes, first love feelings are confusing you.When you truly loved a guy (which I think you did this one) you will always have a place in your heart for him. Every time you see him, it will all come back. Just except it and move on. I do that every time I see my ex-husband, but I will never go back with him. Thats done and its over (he caused me a lot of pain). If its met to be it will happen again. Just dont chase something that will never make you happy. Youll eventually get over the old guy. Your just not over him- yet. Thats all it is. Stay with new guy and enjoy life! Like the old song sais- love the one you with... and youll be fine.
your first love feelings are just confusing you. plus the fact that he had been sweet talking you all summer long. I think you just grew used to the fact that he still loved you and would do anything to get you back, even dumping a new girl friend for you. Now that he has found a girl that he wont leave for you, youre panicking, fearing you made a big mistake. Its not that, youre just finally coming to terms with the fact that he isnt yours anymore.
It happens to everyone at some point after a break up, when you realise that theyre no longer yours, and they are going to move on.
Remember, exs are exs for a reason!
There is a reason you two broke up, and even if you did go out again, it would never be the same. The reason you broke up with him will forever be in the back of your mind when youre with him. Its not going to go away just because you may want it to.
Good luck, hey?
Youll figure it out.
You need first get it all sorted out in your mind. The best way is not contacting your ex not at all, and then analysing your relationship. I advice you to read http://www.squidoo.com/winning-ex-back Lots of great information can be found at the site.
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